Break Up

Art Of Letting Go

2007-08-23T10:13:00.000-06:00

Why do people cry when they broke up with their girlfriends or boyfriends?!! That is one of our questions in life, isn't it?

People undergo treatment when they broke up. Ofcourse we cannot help ourselves from crying. There are a lot of questions that we are asking in ourselves but we cannot answer directly. One of these is, "What have I done wrong??".. Yes ofcourse we have done a lot of sacrifices just to earn a good relationship but then, we just end up crying. Nothing is impossible if we have tried to be good in ourselves and also in the relationship that we had.

Love gives us a lot of suffering. Yes Its true, but then love lets us feel all what we need to feel and experience. We love because we want to be happy, we want to feel what life is.

Crying is only a treatment for us to heal a broken heart. We cry because at first, we can't accept that we have been separated from our loved ones but we have to think that "WE NEED TO LET GO", we need to move on. And in able to move on, we need to let go of the past and accept that life is not always fair. We need to accept every circumstances that are hanging in front of us. LIFE IS NOT LIFE WITHOUT SACRIFICES... God lets us feel the sorrow in able for us to develop our emotions and be able to stand in every trial that will come to our lives.

Just always remember that in your life today, You are not alone and you will never be as long as your friends are there to give you company and to give you the advices you need in your life. Mostly that we should not forget is GOD whos always been there through our good and bad times. Never forget to call for him everytime..

Godbless You all and till next time!!!

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Ofcourse I am a 4th year high school student. I got a boyfriend that I love so much.. I have experience a lot of pains regarding boyfriends, friends and family but I able to cope for these things. I am a happy person with no fear because I know that GOD is with me....

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My Sad Story

2007-08-22T14:04:00.000-06:00

When I thought of writing this story, I assumed it would be easy: that it would be simply be a discharge of sentiments that I've kept for quite a long time. Although, it had been a couple of years now, it's still a torture to summon up an event in my life that had left me devastated. And now, for me to say firmly that it's settled and over, I had to open the box where I've hidden my true self and finally step-out of it. To do that I had to vent my feelings through words.

Meeting him at my cousin's grad party a year earlier before we were officially on, we first found ourselves disliking each other. I was annoyed by his pride. He was irritated because I was snobbish.

But when we learned more about each other, we found ourselves on the same wavelength. And then it happened, we were both ecstatic when we became a couple. Here was a charming, smart and free-spirited man who matched and even surpassed my energy, peculiarity and principles. It was tough because we had a long distance relationship on our first year. It was complicated because the relationship wasn't known by my family. It wasn't perfect- we had our share of differences that we fought over. But the good times far outweighed the gloomy days. On many ways, we complemented each other. From here to down under, our mutual friends conceded the unavoidable: he and I settling down. I myself was confident we eventually would.

The confidence wasn't only drawn from the attachment we developed with our respective friends but even more with the openness we set on our relationship. Without me asking, he spilled the beans on his past high spirited behaviour. The honesty he showed was overwhelming. People can change, I say. Watching him plan a future with me when he claims he never thought about it in the past was somehow a guarantee. Sensing his efforts, I vowed to keep things together.

Three months after our second year anniversary, I noticed his silence, I felt his guilt. When I probed what was wrong, he told me there's nothing to be concerned about. He was just stressed with school work, he said. And so I brushed it off- although at the back of my mind, my instinct was hinting a different story.

We were on the phone one day when he hesitatingly broke the blowing line: "We need to talk…" He confirmed my suspicions: he had been involved with another woman and the situation escalated because the third party was so dear to me. Dumbfounded, I couldn't utter any sensible word. Seeing him after a week, there was already an invisible wall between us. I tried to remain diplomatic but I couldn't hold being composed. It was devastatingly painful to realize that he had been fooling around when all the time I completely trusted him. I recollect an incident when he accused me of seeing another guy, when all the while he'd been the one cheating on me. I reminded him of our deal breaker when we were still working on our foundation: if either one of us turns unfaithful, that ends everything.

His astonished expression when I dropped my final decision to let him go remains vivid to this day. Perhaps he could not believe that the woman who used to drop everything for him would firmly mouth those words. For the first time, I saw him break down and sob like someone who was shaken by a big loss.

I do miss him, very much, in fact. I especially miss his infectious sense of humor. The physical evidence of him being a part of my life is easy to dispose but the emotional connection then was too stubborn to go away. I maybe young that time but at seventeen, I'm claiming my first broken heart. So it's true: it's never easy to let go of someone you love and have shared wonderful memories with. Somewhere along the way he had simply stumbled. I was the one bruised, but at least I can walk straight, guilt-free and move on without limping from a big loss.

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Successful Career, Rocky Relationship?

2007-08-19T10:24:00.000-06:00

While you’re soaring with the eagles at work, things are about as low as they can get on the home front. This is a quandary many people before you have had, but within the situation is an opportunity to evaluate life.

Often it takes a relationship breakdown of divorce proportions to force us to stop and take stock of the meaning and direction of our life.

We also know that “love” is one of the pillars of our life. We also know it’s not logical to be working as hard and as long as we do, creating all the money and success imaginable only to end up alone and unable to share all the fruits with the one you love the most.

What the successful career, rocky relationship situation provides you with though is an opportunity to evaluate. Let me explain.

Life is about purpose – life purpose. You, within your life purpose – above everything else, are striving for happiness and in order to help you evaluate your situation I have a few questions for you that takes you right to the heart of the matter.

Are you happy “with you” in your relationship?
Are you happy with your partner in the relationship?
Do you still want the relationship?
Can the relationship be salvaged? If so, how?

Are you using work to hide from something at home? Children; in-laws; step-children, the pain of a family death; something your partner said to you months ago that hurt and you never let go of it?
Are there pressures at home that could be worked out with a different strategy i.e. outside help, like coaching or counseling?

Do you love your work more than your partner?
Do you change into a different person that you don’t like when you cross the threshold, or when you turn into the street?

Many situations can be worked out if you want to work them out. In the short term talking or working together can work, but you must be careful that you don’t just stick a plaster over what appeared to be a small wound only for it to reopen again later.

One of the ways to avoid this is to strip down your life in order to rediscover your self. Doing this will make you happy, not just for an hour or a day, but for life.

People who have been in successful careers, rocky relationships are using this situation to reevaluate their meaning & direction in life. They’re doing it and finding they’re now mastering more than just the career pillar, but the relationship one too.

They are growing into stronger, fitter, happier people. Do you want to join them?

Best Wishes

Jo Ball
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life

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Jo Ball (LCA, Dip, NLP Prac) Are you someone who wants to develop a successful career and relationship? Jo Ball is developing the next generation of people who succeed in career and relationships at Unstoppable Life. These people are clear on their purpose – "Life Purpose". Join Jo’s Fr>ee newsletter now and discover what others worldwide are alr

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Dealing With Friends And Family During Divorce

2007-08-17T11:31:00.000-06:00

In a divorce it is not just mom, dad, and the kids who are affected. Your parents, siblings, in-laws, uncles, aunts, and friends are all drawn into the conflict. As you begin the divorce process, your tendency will be to think only of your most immediate world: home, children, and property. This is the core that is changing, but that can blind you to the larger world outside. As the process drags on you will discover that your entire range of relationships has changed. Some of these changes are sudden and huge. Others are far subtler.

Whose friend is whose? Will you ever see your in-laws again? What are the fault lines of your children’s loyalties? Will any of their friendships be affected? Much of this turns on the divorce process itself. The nastier it gets, the more difficult these questions become. Can you remain friends with the couple that is still on good terms with your ex? When you’re around them do you have to watch every word you say?

As with all issues of divorce, this one is easier if the split is amicable. If you and your ex are on friendly terms, that feeling will usually extend to his relatives. But if things have been ugly, then relationships change radically. The bitterness in a divorce tends to bleed into far too many other parts of one’s life.

When you are one of the people who are divorcing, you suffer not only the loss of a spouse, but a whole set of people you cared about. These may be people you spoke to candidly, folks with whom you shared holidays and vacations. You may have even thought of them as people you would confide in about anything. Suddenly they are cast into an enemy camp, and you wish you’d never said a word to them.

The easy thing to say is: be strong. The most important thing to say is: go to the friends and family who have stuck with you. When people turn against you, go to those people who are true to you. Your real friends won’t ask you to spell out everything, or to prove anything. They will simply give you love and support, and that is exactly what you need most now.

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Christina Rowe is the author of the best selling divorce book "Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know". Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce. For a free chapter of the book go to: http://www.secretsofdivorce.com

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Cutting The Cord

2007-08-14T14:26:00.000-06:00

Sometimes, after a relationship has ended, many of us have problems letting go. A lot of my clients often complain of feeling haunted or even possessed by the dearly departed (who probably isn't even thinking of you at all and is busy happily running away with his or her new partner.) It's like the person has left an indelible imprint upon your heart and many of us feel that we can't go on until the ex returns. The energy of the ex might be manifesting itself in all sorts of ways --- in what you perceive to be little omens or reminders that occur in every day life (such as a phrase or song lyric) or even as a visitor in your dreams.

There are all kinds of cures for this phenomenon, (everything from burning bundles of sage to clear the room of the ex's vibe to throwing out every single reminder of him or her, including the bed.) Yet before you ditch the Sealy Posturepedic, I suggest you try this little exercise called "Cutting The Cord."

The idea behind this is that whenever we connect to someone we connect to him or her at the point of our solar plexus, the area just below your diaphragm. When we first meet someone and fall in love, we spend a lot of time building up this energy which lightworkers say looks like a rope of light that connects two people. However, even after one person disappears, the rope can still remain.

Often, the person who is left behind spends a lot of time fortifying that rope with his or her own psychic energy in an attempt to bring the person back. The ex can compare to a psychic vampire, who is gleefully sucking back the energy that the dumped person is sending them. It doesn't even matter if you are sending them bad thoughts or resentment. That energy is often translated to them in the purest form of astral energy -- and they use it to transmute and feed their new relationship. So in order to prevent yourself being sucked dry by the psychic vampire, oops I mean the ex, I suggest you try this: Lie down on the bed, breathe deeply and become as relaxed as you can. Now picture the other person and the cord of light that you created when you thought the both of you would be connected for all eternity. Visualize that cord as best you can and examine it.

How thick is it? What colour is it? What is it made of? Now choose your weapon. What will you use to cut this cord? Do you need a knife or is the connection so strong that it can be broken only by hacking at it with a machete? If a machete doesn't work, try a buzz saw. My favourite is a huge pair of golden scissors. Now, in your mind's eye, snip, hack chop, sever ... do whatever you have to do to cut the cord. Picture the other person floating away from you like a helium balloon let loose in the sky ... and smile and wave "bye bye!" Oddly, one of the side benefits (or drawbacks depending on how you look at it) is that the other person senses the detachment. Like a greedy psychic vampire, they will come back to see where their source of energy has gone. So not only does this exercise your astral health, but it often brings the ex back. That is, if you even want them back at all.

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Samantha Stevens was a professional psychic at http://www.psychicrealm.com for many years. Read more of her articles at http://www.newagenotebook.com If you wish to buy Samantha's books about metaphysics click here http://www.insomniacpress.com/author.php?id=110

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How Betrayed Lovers Can Carry On?

2007-08-09T12:40:00.002-06:00

Love gives life and a break-up takes away a life. Why a lover cannot live normally after a bad break-up? What if one also feels betrayed after the breakup? These questions are as ancient as the civilization.

Exploring romantic love -

Let us explore some more about romantic love and break-ups.

A person who becomes totally involved with love loses his/her identity.

The whole being revolves around the love. All the ambitions, all desires, all pains, everything in life gets related to love. Such lovers feel destroyed after the break-up.

If love is only a part of life one can survive easily after the break-up.

But will any poet call such kind of love as true love? The definition of true love means you give your self totally away to your beloved. You dream, eat, enjoy, and cry, laugh, work, what ever you do is all centered around your beloved. You live in that love. And hence you die once you are betrayed. If you are in true romantic love, you cannot live for a day without your lover, hence it becomes impossible to live for a lifetime. The pain of separation and of betrayal becomes so bad, that the sadness kills the essence of living.

Betrayal -

For those who have been betrayed in love, it becomes impossible to understand about how their lover could betray them? It is like a child stabbing the mother. Imagine the pain of the mother who brought up her child with nothing but love, care and took every pain to see that her child was happy. The betrayed lover feels something similar and even more. So what is to be done?

Remedy -

Is their any remedy for such people? Turn to God for help. Pray.

Look at the most suffering section of the society, such as children suffering from cancer and try to do something to help them. Find out those who are facing unimaginable hardships and do something to make their life better. Take your thoughts away from your own pain and look at others undergoing much worse pain. Contribute in someway to help this world become a better place. That is the answer for betrayal and a bad break-up.

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CD Mohatta writes about different aspect of life. Love, inspiration, pains, humanity, truth etc. He is currently a dedicated content writer for http://www.screene.com network websites. He writes text for ecards, wallpapers and screensavers in http://www.inspirationaldesktops.com and http://www.cupidecards.com

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How Betrayed Lovers Can Carry On?

2007-08-09T12:40:00.001-06:00

How Betrayed Lovers Can Carry On?

2007-08-09T12:40:00.000-06:00

Bedroom Furniture For The Newly Divorced

2007-08-08T11:39:00.000-06:00

If you have recently divorced, you may have had to split your furniture or even give up all of your furniture all-together. What can you do if you are faced with the decision to buy new Bedroom Furniture but you are on a bit of a budget due to your divorce? Well, good news is that there are many great options out there once you know where and how to look. It's hard for some people that are used to sharing a room with another to get divorced and then have to decorate a bedroom on their own. Here are some tips to help you do that with style and class- and also on a budget.

The first thing you need to consider is how much furniture you need and how much space you have. If you are limited on space, as many newly divorced people are, then you probably won't need furniture as large as what you had before. If you moved to an apartment or smaller house, a King Size Bed Bedroom Set might not even fit in your new room. You need to think about the amount of space that you have to work with and also the fact that you likely won't need as much space now as you did before when you were married.

But thinking necessity does not mean you have to do away with style and fashion. There are any Affordable Bedroom Sets in smaller size such as a regular full sized bed. For some people, even a twin size bed may work for their needs. If you have always wanted a canopy bed but your spouse didn't approve, this may be the perfect time and opportunity to go for a four poster canopy bed or metal canopy bed.

It doesn’t stop when you have chosen your bed; you might also want to look at bedroom dressers and bedroom TV Armoires to find the perfect fit for your clothing and personal belongings. But since you are divorced, you may choose smaller sizes with fewer drawers since you won't need as much storage space in the bedroom. For many people, a divorce is a starting over point. It can also be a very emotionally trying time in your life so doing something good for yourself, even if it is just something small, can make a big difference. You owe it to yourself to take care of yourself and creating a bedroom that you can relax in and sleep well in is a good way to do this. A good night's rest in a Comforting Bedroom will help you get the mental and physical rejuvenation that you need to start your day anew.

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Ben Weissman writes articles about Affordable Bedroom Furniture, Discount Modern beds and Home Decorating. Find more Decorating Ideas at Home-and-Bedroom.com

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How To Dump A Woman And Not Look Like The Bad Guy

2007-07-23T20:54:00.000-06:00

Breaking up is never easy. The important thing to do is to minimize the damage when it is time to drop those time tested magic words that simply goes like this: "It's not you, it's me".

Sometimes it can't be helped, despite of a couple's best effort, a relationship goes sour. It's nobody's fault, so you claim. But it is important that you say this with complete conviction. Otherwise it just becomes another cliché, and this might be enough to ignite her anger. Instead of having a nice, clean, hassle-free break up, it becomes a big blown out scene with sobs and all. Take note, that those pathetic sobs will not come from a woman!

Here are some tips that men could memorize, on how to break up with a woman. This might come in handy some day, so commit it to memory!

1. Location is key. Men who are planning to break up with their girlfriends should prepare ahead of time. They should make sure that the break up doesn't happen on her home turf. Because this will put men on a disadvantage. Pick a place that is neutral. Her favorite restaurant is not considered neutral.

This will only rouse her memory of all the happy times you spend together on that place. This environment might have the effect of her coming down on you like a ton of bricks. Before you know it, she will be blaming you for everything that is going wrong in her life. Plus, everyone will look at you like you are the bad guy. No sir, this is not a good idea! You will not win any sympathy votes here. Try the park instead!

2. Never break up with a woman over the phone. This will earn any man the title of the scoundrel of the century, and rightly so. Men should at least honor the woman who became a part of their lives with their presence when it comes time to call it quits. It is the noble thing to do.

3. Don't let her be the last to know. There is saying that goes "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". This is something that any man would not want to experience in person!

If a man is thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend, he should not let the word out on it until the girlfriend has been informed. Imagine the drama that it will create if she found out about it through one of his friends, or worse gossip.

The confrontation that will then ensue will be ugly! Men should save themselves this headache by telling their woman first.

4. Timing is everything. Never break up with a woman during her birthday, or Valentines Day! At all costs, holidays should be avoided. This is just plain cruel!

5. Men should tell their girlfriend the reason why they are breaking up with them. This would be the decent thing to do. So afterwards, she will not wonder as to why the whole thing fell apart. Put it this way, if it were the other way around, you would want to know too! Be honest but kind. Afterwards, men can congratulate themselves for the sensitivity they've displayed and feel good about themselves!

6. If she starts screaming at you, don't scream back. Consider it the price you have to pay for ending what maybe in her eyes, "a match made in heaven". Some women are naturally emotional. Men should expect some display of histrionics when it is time to break up with their girlfriends. In fact, they should prepare for it.

Before a man breaks up with a woman they have to make sure that his decision is final! There will not be turning back once this deed is done. If he suddenly changes his mind after breaking a woman's heart, the chances are it will not be likely that she will take him back. This is the part when a man's life takes an ugly turn because now he is completely at the mercy of the woman. Make sure that this doesn't happen to you by thinking about this decision many times over.

Once you've decided that there is not future for the two of you, take the high road, and play the sensitive guy! This way, she will not hold the break up against you, and she will tell everyone she knows that you're the bad guy!

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Lonely After Divorce? Get A Dog!

2007-06-26T08:31:00.000-06:00

After my divorce was final, I found myself finally dealing with my feelings about the divorce. During the divorce I was consumed with court dates and legal issues and did not have time to mourn the death of my marriage or deal with the many emotions divorce stirs up.

Working through all of the different emotions and feelings of loss,betrayal, anger and disbelief took many months. One emotion I was surprised to feel was loneliness.

At first I thought that it meant it was time to go out and try and meet someone new. Then I realized that what I really craved was not a boyfriend, but attention, love and friendship.
That was when I decided to get a puppy. After all, puppies give you unconditional love. They are thrilled to see you even if you have only been gone for an hour and they are loyal, cuddly friends that will never betray you. Sine my youngest child was 7 years old at the time, I also had the urge to "baby" and take care of someone helpless again.

I adopted Luigi a 3 month old Maltese, 5 months after my divorce was settled. Luigi is a wonderful, loving, loyal little guy who has brought me an enormous amount of joy. He is truly my "best friend". He is there for me in good times and bad and I can count on his love and devotion.

If you are going through a divorce and feel a sense of sadness and loneliness,you need to work through these emotions. Meeting someone and getting serious too soon can be a mistake. If what you really crave is love and attention,think about adopting a pet. Ironically once you feel loved and needed again, you will naturally attract someone into your life will respect and honor you.

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Christina Rowe is the author of the new book "Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know". Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce. For your free chapter of the book go to: http://www.secretsofdivorce.com

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8 Signs You’re Heading For A Break-up, Part 1

2007-06-17T10:06:00.000-06:00

Have you ever wondered why women just “leave” men and put an end to a relationship – out of the blue – without any particular reason?

Everything seemed to be going fine and suddenly, you find yourself all alone… Well if you’ve been in a relationship before, you’ve probably noticed that at some point, your girl seemed to be lacking interest in you.

And you start getting little signs you weren’t getting in the past, you don’t know what’s wrong but you can feel that something is changing.

I’ve identified 8 signs that come back very often when a woman is close to breaking up. Watch out for these signs, and start calling the shots again.

Bad sign number 1: She writes and calls less often

This is a first sign to look out for. In the initial stages of a relationship, it is perfectly normal to be writing and calling each other a lot.

But after some time, things usually tend to cool down a little. Still, she has to be writing as much as you write her, and calling as much as you do.

If you’re doing all the writing and all the calling, realize that she has a phone and can also keep in touch with you.

Bad sign number 2: Less physical contact

As time goes by, you should be getting to know each other better and better, and that should create more and more physical intimacy between the two of you.

Yet if after a couple of weeks or months your girl seems to be hugging and kissing you a whole lot less, that might be another sign. And since we’re talking about physical contact, pay attention to your sexual habits.

If you notice that your girl is just not into making out anymore, stop initiating contact.

Just stop being the first one to try doing something in bed.

You see, if you always initiate sex, your girl will always be the one to accept or refuse, you hand her the control.

Remember that you have to be in control at all times, so just lay back and let her do something.

If you’ve always been all over her, laying back a bit will have her asking herself: “what’s wrong, aren’t I attractive anymore?”.

You see, the less you try to initiate sex with a woman, the more you’ll have her asking herself for which reason you aren’t into it anymore, and she’ll be dying to conquer you back.

Bad sign number 3: She laughs a lot less

If in the early days you used to be able to make your girl laugh like she’s never laughed before, and now she’s just nodding when you say something, you might have a problem.

She might be a bit bored of hearing your stories. It’s maybe nothing to worry about, but it’s a sign.

To counter that kind of issue, the best thing to do is to become less available for some time, a couple of days for example.

Remember that being available all the time is really not a good solution if you want to build a long-lasting relationship.

By becoming unavailable for a day or two, you get her to think about you even more.

Bad sign number 4: You have the impression of bothering her

You have that awful and horrible feeling that you’re bothering or choking her a little.
And the last thing you want to hear is her saying that she needs a bit of space.

As you know that the key is to remain in control of the relationship, just take a couple of days off. Find a GOOD and plausible excuse, just tell her you have a lot of work to do, you’re working on a project, anything that is realistic and not offending to her, and become unavailable for a couple of days.

Don’t call her as often as would (but be funny and refreshing when you talk), and don’t answer her messages right away.

That’s it for today, but be sure to check out the second part of the article, coming out very soon.

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Matthias Mazur has developed a brand-new system for men who want more success in their dating lives. It’s a complete resource to seduce, date, and keep any woman you want. Check out his site at http://www.seduceandkeep.com to download your FREE report about "How To Avoid The 10 Killer Mistakes That Destroy Your Success With Women".

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How To Forget The Past Relationship

2007-06-04T15:24:00.000-06:00

The past that refuses to go away casts its shadow very long into the present and the future. Many of us have had break ups in the past and now desire to go forward . Something destroys every new relationship. What is that? Because if you find that your every new relationship is breaking apart, you will start searching for faults in yourself. The truth may lie somewhere else.

What happens after a break up?

This depends largely upon the intensity of the earlier relationship. More intense the love, more hurt will result after the break up. And if your break up took place because of unfaithfulness of your partner, it will hurt you still more. The memories of time shared will haunt forever. A look at something shared will bring in an avalanche of past memories and will take away your peace in a moment. The past can be very destructive. It kills the person, it kills the present and the future. It can haunt one forever.

How to come out of it?

There are no easy ways out of this. Some of us will never come out of the grief for our lifetime. One method that can help is this. Imagine a reservoir of emotions. Imagine of many reservoirs. In one, you have your longing for the one you lost. In another you store your memories of good times. In yet another you have stored pain that you are suffering from. In this manner imagine of many reservoirs. Till they are emptied, you will not become new. Am i right? What is to be done? Please empty them out. It will take time, in some cases many years, but you can empty them if you really want. Live through all your longing again and empty that reservoir. Similarly cry as much as you can and fell the hurt the lost love has given you. Experience everything fully, suffer from all the pain and try to empty out all that is in your heart.

This is very painful. But if you want to live again, please do this. Many of us hide our hurt, avoid thinking about the good moments shared together and in all possible ways try to be so busy that the feelings don't come out at all. But the feelings are very much there inside eating away our vitals. These feelings will never allow you to move forward in a positive way. Please remove everything from the mind and the heart by reliving and go forward. You may no longer feel the hurt and the pain with the same intensity, but it will be very difficult to fall in love with another person again with the earlier intensity. Please accept this fact. Your beloved you left you has taken away something very vital from you - your faith in goodness of human beings. But after emptying out totally, you will at least be come a normal person, who can carry on life if not like a robot, than like a person without any feelings.

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Overcoming Rejection

2007-05-23T08:45:00.000-06:00

Now that I have completed a few laps in the online dating pool, I am cogitating another one of Karen’s crackpot theories of life. It’s about rejection. Or not hitting it off. Or not being compatible. Or refusing to compromise. Which could all be the same thing, more or less, depending on how you look at it. Anyway, here’s my theory:

It seems to me that the intensity of the reaction a person has to a ‘rejection’ is inversely proportional to the trust they have in their concept of a higher power. Stay with me one this one ... I think I can link it all up so it makes sense.

Let’s say a person has little belief in anything more perceptive, orderly, or organized than himself. He does not pray or surrender or feel his connection to any type of creator/source/deeper order/life force. He relies only upon his thinking for guidance, and does not believe in any type of bigger picture than what he can perceive with his five senses.

When a person with that consciousness thinks he has met his one and only, but she does not share his perception, then everything goes out of whack in his world. His life feels wrong, like it is departing from its path. He tries to reason with her, to convince her that she should stay, that she is making a mistake, because without her, his life seems empty.

She may consider their plight to be a simple case of incompatibility in some important area, but he perceives a personal rejection, and feels as if there is something wrong with him that he needs to fix. I cannot imagine a more powerless and helpless position to be in than feeling like there is something wrong with you that will keep you from ever having what you want, and not knowing how or being able to force yourself to fix it.

By contrast, let’s look in on a person of faith, be it religious, spiritual, or contemplative/experiential. When she gets the memo that a new prospect does not feel the same kind of potential for a healthy and growing partnership that she does, her reaction happens on a different level.

She may feel some grief or sadness, but she does not perceive his opinion as a statement of judgment about who she is. She does not go on a campaign to woo him back. She does not start a self-improvement campaign to fix all her flaws. She simply accepts that her time with him was brief, and her trust in a higher power allows her to relax, because she does not feel that she is at the wheel and took a wrong turn and had better get herself and him back on track.

She trusts that the partner she is seeking will not require convincing. She surrenders to the bigger plan, knowing she may only have the capacity to see a step or two ahead of where she is, but never doubting that she will arrive at her destination. Aware of the comforting and continuous presence of her inner guide, she does not feel alone, abandoned, or out of place. She lets go, and allows herself to experience her emotional response to the loss, and then moves on.

So if I were going to give any advice to my fellow swimmers, it would be this: Focus more of your energy on cultivating a relationship with a higher power bigger than your mind and senses, and less of your energy on finding your perfect match. Then you can marvel in the graciousness of letting people come and go from your life, as they are wired to do, and you will feel the freedom to do the same.

Copyright 2006 Karen Alonge

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Karen Alonge is an intuitive counselor and parenting consultant. For some reason she feels strangely compelled to mine her personal experiences for insight and share it with unsuspecting readers. Visit http://www.karenalonge.com for more information or to schedule a free 15 min conversation.

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Break Ups: Overcoming The Pain

2007-04-30T13:08:00.000-06:00

To be in a seemingly loving relationship one minute and then thrust back into ‘singledom’ the next minute can be too much for some people – and who’d blame them? Relationship break ups can happen for so many reasons including infidelity, jealousy, anger issues and sometimes just boredom. Some people take it really well when they get dumped and some don’t. Some find it hard to understand why the relationship deteriorated in the first place and may not have thought that there where any problems that were affecting the relationship in such a negative way. People that find breakups difficult can often feel isolated and lonely in their grief. It can really deal blow to their confidence and to their self esteem.

If you have been through a bad break up or are going through one now, you will be able to understand the pain and anguish that a person in that position would go through. Sleepless nights, the feeling of worthlessness and the constant ‘what if’s’ running through your mind are all things that you can empathize with. For some people it is almost the same as being bereaved as you have lost your lover and your relationship. It may be really hard to think about the future in a positive way as every time that you do you just think about your life without your lover. It can truly feel like a downward spiral that is just sucking you further and further into despair.

So if you are going through this kind of situation at the moment and you find yourself finding it hard to cope with what’s going on – don’t despair as you can get over this. As a hypnotherapist I help countless numbers of individual’s trough tough relationship splits via my products and in my private clinic. Hypnosis is so successful as it simply reprograms the part of your brain that is making you feel so bad at the moment. We refer to this part as being your sub-conscious mind and it is the part of your mind that holds all of your beliefs, habits and behaviours, so it is a great place to start.

If you are serious about using hypnosis to successfully get over your break up and loss, then I would recommend that you start off by trying a hypnosis download or recording. Listen to it and relax with it – just allowing it to do all of the work for you. I wish you the best of luck and success.

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Tips For Getting Over A Break-up

2007-04-29T09:48:00.000-06:00

Going through a break up can be a massively difficult time for some people. On occasion’s confusion, anger, resentment and a whole range of negative emotions can be present in the person that is suffering at the hands of a nasty break-up. If you are suffering from a bad split at the moment from your partner then you will understand just how bad it can feel. I have put this article together for you to help you through this difficult time and to make things a bit easier for you. I successfully help hundreds of people in your situation either through my one to one session or through my products. Generally I use hypnosis with each client, however to help you today I have listed some of my tips that I give to clients below. I hope that you use them and see the benefit sometime soon. Good luck and I wish you the best of success.

1. Get a friend over and talk it through… You will be amazed just how different you will feel once you have got things off your chest. Maybe invite a non-judgmental friend over for a glass of wine or two and talk it through. This will really help you to clear the confusion from the whole situation.

2. Weigh up the relationship… Remember the good times and the bad times. Think as though it was a great novel and that you are writing the conclusion. You are creating what memories you want to keep from this relationship before you move on. Everybody has great things in their lives that come to an end and this is possibly yours. See the good times you had and what things that you learnt that you can take into other future relationships to make them fantastic.

3. Look into the future… Look forward and think about meeting friends for coffee or going on a shopping spree. Maybe even book a holiday with a few friends just to give you something to look forward too – even if it is in a few months!

4. Meet the new you… Over the course of any relationship we change as a relationship is a ‘give and take’ situation. Take the time to understand how you have changed as an individual. Take the time to get to know you again. There may be things that you haven’t done in a while that you love to do as it was something that your ex didn’t share your passion for.

I hope that you have enjoyed these tips and put them to good use to deal with your situation. Again I wish you the best of success.

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Getting An Ex Girlfriend Back

2007-04-22T09:36:00.000-06:00

Do you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back? If you still love your ex girlfriend, but you don't know how to win back her love, read these simple tips:

- Create some space between yourself and your ex girlfriend. Stop all phone calls, text messages and emails.

- After some time, invite your ex girlfriend to talk to you. Ask if she'd like to do something non-committal, like have a drink with you. Express regret things weren't working out between you.

- Respect her decisions. If she is seeing someone else, do not sabotage her relationship in any way.

- Don't mention things you do or have done for her. She won't forget them, don't worry. If you mention them to her, you are making them worthless.

- Buy her gifts. They don't have to be expensive. Sometimes flowers alone are not enough. Buy her something unique and romantic. However, if you want to get your ex girlfriend back, don't rely on buying gifts only. Prove that you really love her and are not simply lusting for her.

- Make your ex girlfriend jealous. Pretend to be happy and look like you have completely forgotten about her. Flirt with everybody - there is nothing better than having fun, when she expects you to be down in the dumps. So, have fun.

- Avoid rebound relationships and one-night stands. This won't make your ex-girlfriend jealous, or jealous enough, to come back.

- Be patient. It may take a while for her to realize what she lost. Also, try to be a better person. When she sees that the change is genuine and that it is there to last, she will start to open up her heart once again. She fell for you once - try to remember what she fell for and then reinforce those characteristics again.

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Breakups : How To Get Over Relationship Break Ups

2007-04-21T12:37:00.000-06:00

Are you at the end of a relationship and finding it hard to come to terms with your loss? Are you finding it hard to understand why your relationship has come to the end in the way that it did? Are you feeling that this may be something that you just can’t get over? Do you just want the pain and anguish to go away so that you can heal and start over again? If you are experiencing a bad relationship break up then you can certainly understand the negative impact that it can have on your emotions and also the feelings of the people that love and look out for you.

In my career as a hypnotherapist I have helped hundreds of individuals with soothing that pain and hurt that comes from hard relationship break-ups. Some people that I have seen see it as the end of their world and in the first instance find it very hard to move on, put it behind them and get on with their life. For them this is a real pain that is not even comparable to the worst kind of physical pain. If you are suffering in this situation right now then I want to offer a message of hope and say that how ever hard it is to believe right now, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just hang in there.

With the clients that I help, I use hypnosis, this is done on a one to one bases or through my hypnosis download for break ups. Hypnosis basically works to reprogram the part of the brain that we call the sub or un-conscious mind. It is the sub-conscious mind that holds all of our thoughts, beliefs, memories, behaviours and habits, so it is a great place to start to deal with the negative impact of your break-up. By soothing the pain and other emotions related to break ups you can then start to look at your situation differently – in another light. This allows you to make decision about your future with more clarity.

If you are serious about getting over the pain and discomfort of a relationship break up then I wish you the best of luck and success. I suggest that you start with a hypnosis recording or download or even look up your local hypnotherapist to seek their help.

I really wish you the best of success in this and remember – this is not the end of the world – you are strong enough to beat this.

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Does Any Other Loss Equal Loss Of Love

2007-04-16T10:38:00.000-06:00

Have you loved and had the devastating experience of your beloved leaving you? Have you felt the pain? Does any other pain come nearer to it? Yes, the pain of losing someone by death may come near to that. But even that is not comparable. By death, you lose your sweetheart forever and know that she/he is no longer in this world. But if he/she leaves you, you experience the shock that is unsurpassed. You know that your beloved is in this world itself, but you have no strength to find out where? You have no strength to meet and find out the reason for the betrayal. You get so numbed with the shock, that you can take no more pain. So you are left to live with that pain yourself. And that life is nothing but death at every moment.

When I cry for my beloved, the tears that I shed are more precious than heavenly pearls, says the poet in me. Yes, one cries, and one finds no one to share that cry. If you talk to people around you about the break down you are facing, they will probably call you a fool for grieving. After sometime, you stop talking to anyone about your pain. That keeps the pain inside you. That kills you slowly, but surely.

Can one overcome this? Very difficult. The very fact that you fell in love that submerged you tells about your personality. Such personalities that give themselves totally away, find it very difficult to bear the loss of love. Snatch a child away from the mother and measure the pain of the mother, you will find out what I am talking about. Why does the mother grieve so much? Because she carried the child in her womb for nine months, she cared for the child after birth, she kept awake for her child for endless nights and she dreamt for her child at all the times. The child was an extension of her own personality. The loss therefore becomes unbearable.

In the same way, those who love deeply, love their beloved like their own child. They care for the beloved like their own extension. Their love and their beloved become an essential part of their personality. Therefore, when that love walks out, the grief is immense and the loss immeasurable. What is to be done? No one can say about this. It all depends on the personality.If that person can somehow continue working towards a useful goal, while keeping the pain all the time inside the heart, life can be carried on for some time. But ultimately that pain of separation will engulf the person.

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How To Forget The Past Relationship

2007-04-15T16:49:00.000-06:00

Break Up & Divorce: Should You Condemn Yourself To A Bad Relationship Because Of Religion And Guilt?

2007-04-06T14:03:00.000-06:00

If you're in a bad marriage and are really unhappy, should you separate, get a divorce, or stay in the marriage?

This is not a cut and dry decision as there are many factors to consider. We're about to step outside the box and ask you to question beliefs that you may have never thought to question before. In other words, have an open mind as you read the rest of this article.

Background - Is this a bad relationship?

Imagine the following scenario...

I was married for twelve years to a man (S) that deserted me twice. He also had numerous extra-marital infidelities. He took his stuff and left this last time about a year and a half ago. I tried and tried to talk to him but he refused to talk to me or answer my phone calls. I was just heartbroken. He was my second husband. My first husband wasn't unfaithful, but he had an explosive temper and shouted and screamed at me. And even though he never actually hit me, I was afraid of him.

Anyway, seven months after my second husband left me I decided to try and move on with my life. I met a wonderful man (D). He was everything I had wanted - Caring, responsible, trustful and very loving. We started slowly, but after awhile I fell deeply in love with him. And he fell in love with me.

I hired an attorney. I filed for divorce. After I had been with D for around four months he proposed to me. I was very excited and accepted. I knew our relationship was perfect and we had a wonderful life ahead of us. We were doing everything together and I was so happy.

S somehow found out and started to phone me. He told me he wanted us to get back together. He told me he would never do any of the things he had done to me before. He said he had found God and was going to church now. He said that he was a changed man. He said I was still his wife and I owed him another chance to prove he had changed. He told me he was a broken man and was thinking about suicide. I finally allowed him to see me he cried and cried and pleaded with me telling me he had changed. I felt so guilty .

Should she take her husband back or stay with her new found love? What would you do?

Love and Fear

While this is a very emotional situation, you should not allow yourself to feel guilty about anything another person does or experiences. They make their own choices in life and their experiences are their own. Be understanding and empathize with the other person, but never, ever, make yourself responsible for what another person is experiencing.

You can control how you behave and respond to a situation, but that is where your control ends. Never let another person make you feel guilty . There is no right or wrong choice in life because we grow from each experience - some choices just work better for us than others. Even the ones that didn't work out quite like you hoped provide the opportunity to grow.

Sometimes the best way to figure out what we want is to experience what we don't want. Try to learn from past experiences so that you don't keep repeating them over and over. The Universe, or God, seems to keep sending you the same situation or experience until you learn the lesson that you need to learn from that specific experience. In other words, patterns keep repeating until you get it right.

Our emotional scale has two extremes - love and fear. In every situation - ask yourself if you're acting out of love or fear, and always try to act out of love. Now that doesn't mean letting someone walk all over you... You need to make decisions that feel right in your heart, in the core of your being, in your gut, however you want to explain it. Just make sure that you're not making your decisions out of fear, anger, guilt, jealousy, revenge or any other negative emotion.

Others may react to your decisions with a negative emotion, but remember what I said in the beginning - You can only control your responses, not theirs. If another person chooses to respond to something you do with a negative emotion, that's their decision and you can't control what they do. You can only accept their reaction with love and understanding.

Make your life decisions based on what feels right for you. Many, but not all, will disagree with me, but the only person that you are ultimately responsible for in this life is you. Others come and go from your life so that you can further the experience of life, but you come into this life on your own and you leave on your own, so make sure that while your here you take care of YOU.

Religion and Guilt

When you choose to get advice from a religious counselor, remember that he is bound by the rules and regulations of whichever religion he chooses to follow. And those rules and regulations are not always based on love, but may also be based on control and trying to make the followers act and behave in a manner the religion deems appropriate.

Forgiveness, however, is the most powerful tool that you have in this life. I believe there's a quote that goes something like... "Forgiveness is God's gift to the forgiver, not the forgiven" - something like that. It's very true because when you forgive someone you let go of all the negative emotions around that situation whether or not the other person even knows that you forgave them.

This may sound harsh, but I would ditch the church counselor. He does not necessarily have your best interest in mind. His main concern is that you follow the rules of the church, whether you're happy or not. And I believe that we are all here to experience happiness.

The doctrine of misery is fabricated by modern organized religion. They tell us that we have to suffer to be good people. Have you really read the Bible? I can't find anywhere in the Bible that says we need to be miserable to be good people.

My interpretation of Jesus' teachings and the Bible is that we should love and accept everyone and every experience that comes into our life unconditionally because life is perfection.

Sure, modern religion misquotes many specific passages in the Bible which have been translated by many different writers with many different perceptions through many different languages over thousands of years - and then tells us to follow their rules or go to Hell. I believe that Hell is defined by the self perpetrated misery that many people put themselves through each and every day.

"Hell is what we experience when we are not true to ourselves."

We don't need religion to tell us what is right and wrong. As long as you come from a place of love and acceptance, you'll always make the right decisions. I've never known a truly spiritual person who judges or condemns another person. Why would an all powerful God need to judge us - that would be like us judging the actions of ant in an anthill on a tiny island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean ... OK, enough ranting on modern religion...

In Summary

If you find yourself in a similar situation,

-- Follow your heart and do what you feel to be right.

-- Stop listening to other people who are not on your path. You've heard the old saying to walk a mile in another's shoes before judging them. Well, the fact is that no one has walked in your shoes and they have no right to tell you what is right or wrong for you.

-- Stop repeating old patterns and stop punishing yourself for things that others perceive to be wrong. Follow your heart and your passions. Only then will you truly be happy.

-- It is not your responsibility to make anyone else happy, but it IS your responsibility to make yourself happy.

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Sadness Of Love

2007-04-05T09:47:00.000-06:00

Click any website that talks of sadness of love. You will get moist eyes after some time. The quotes of some people about the sadness they feel after losing love are very emotionally shattering. Why should love bring so much sadness? When a loved one leaves for some one else, why do most of us feel devastated? For many of us it is an earth shaking experience. What was pure pleasure turns into absolute pain that is unbearable.

Why does lost love bring so much sadness? A lover cries her/his eyes dry with sadness, but the sadness does not go away. The more one tries to avoid thinking of the lost love, the more memories come back. Every spot where you shared something, every road where you walked together, every incident that you shared, they all become deep wounds that never heal. They take away the essence of living. They leave one lost forever in sadness with a loneliness that refuses to go away.

What do the people who leave their lover think after leaving? I have no clue to that. But I know one fact. Such brutes try to justify their action in many ways. This is their way of telling their own conscience that what they did was correct. Though they justify in many ways, I wonder if they ever are satisfied with their own explanations? One great advantage such people who leave a life sad is - They depart after giving so much pain that the one who is left has no desire or energy to go back to them and ask- Why? To meet one's lost love again may become very frightening because of the pain given before. One may begin perspiring at the very thought.

After knowing about this sadness, I can only say that one feels that death is better than to live with such sadness. Life becomes impossible. As there is no way to punish the brutes who leave a life shattered, the only prayer one can make is - God, please let her/him know about what she/he did. Please ask her/him to repent and come back.

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10 Signs You Are Getting Dumped

2007-04-02T13:33:00.000-06:00

Is your relationship on the rocks? Having some trouble decoding those hidden messages your partner is giving you. Here are 10 signs you are on your way out the door. We hate to be the ones to break it to you, but somebody had to do it.

1. Your significant other's (SO) friends start acting distant towards you. If there is a sudden change in their attitude towards you then that is a pretty good clue they know something you don't know.

2. Your SO doesn't listen to you. And, when I say doesn't listen you, I really mean hardly ever listens to you(everyone has days when they aren't the best listeners). Generally, this becomes clear when you are trying to remind them of what you said and they have no idea what you are talking about.

3. Your SO is suddenly busy all of the time. If they truly cared they would be making time for you!

4. Lies, even small ones. Oftentimes this means they are starting a web of lies to cover up the one thing the do not want you to know about.

5. Your SO keeps you waiting. It doesn't even matter in what sense. From decisions on plans, to running late for a date, to not calling when they said they would.

6. A good old pat on the pack. According to many behavioral psychologist a pat on the back during a hug is a sign of uneasiness.

7. Your SO picking silly fights. Like you putting the seat down again or chewing your gum to loud. Picking minor fights is a sign of emotional distress in a relationship.

8. Your SO avoids talking about the future, even the immediate future, like plans for next Tuesday.

9. There is a dramatic change in your SO's sexual behavior. While it could be a sign of outside stress, more often than not it is a sign you are about to get the old heave ho.

10. Any sentence starting with "we need to talk" or "it's not you its me" pretty much means you should be packing the suitcase and moving on.

This list is not all inclusive, but it will hopefully help you decode some mysterious behavior.

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Surviving Heartbreak Hell

2007-04-01T09:55:00.000-06:00

It's been months since your breakup but you're still stuck in bed grieving over your lost love. You couldn't eat (or stop eating), sleep or work because he's all you could ever think of. You keep repeating your heartbreak mantra, "Why did he leave me...what did I do?" as you succumb to a series of hysterical crying fits. You’re officially a victim of a broken heart.

So how do you smart from a brush-off? Here are some tips to help you survive heartbreak hell.

1. Lose it

Moan. Sob. Let it all hang out. Rid yourself of all-consuming anger and vent every ounce of vitriol in your system. Allow yourself a good wallow. Take a pillow and pretend it was him and do everything with it the way you'd want to get back at him. Throw all his letters and photos away. Call your friends and tell them your heartaches for the 20th time. Grieve your heart out on a guy who was no better than a rotten carcass.

2. Accept what you can't change

So, it's over. This may be hard to swallow but the reality is it's all over and there's nothing you can do about it. You are left without a choice but to believe and accept it. Remember, acceptance is the key to healing.

3. Work It Out

Put your positive attitude at work and head to the gym for some 30-minute work out a day. Exercise won't only sweep the mopey mood away but it will also make you feel and look good as it helps pump out endorphins, the body's natural chemicals that make you feel strong and oozing with sex appeal.

4. Aromatherapy for the heart

Aromatherapy is believed to lift depression and soothe irritable nerves. If you haven't tried it, you should try it now as it works wonders not just to your body but also to your mind and spirit. Here's a quick recipe: Fill a 10-ounce bottle of organic vegetable oil with 9 drops of lavender oil, 15 drops of sandalwood oil, 4 drops of rose essential oil and 10 drops of warm water. Dispense 10 drops of the mixture to a warm bath and you're ready to soak!

5. Put a front if necessary

You may still be experiencing emotional turmoil inside but if you stay confined within the four walls of your room chances are you'll feel even more miserable. Get out and show the world that you're not an emotional wreck. Crack a smile and flash those pearly whites. At first, you may find it awkward putting on a face but soon enough you'd become so good at it you'd be doing it for real, without even noticing it yourself.

6. Adopt a pet

Need some lovin'? Get a pet. Pets aren't only cuddly and affectionate but are also a good diversion of your time and focus. Sure you crave human affection but unlike humans, your pet can't talk so the chances of getting yourself hurt are slim, at least not emotionally.

7. Close the door

Don't be a fool for love. If he keeps calling you to ask for another chance or to tell you that he has someone new but wants to stay as friends, don't bite. You won't only be allowing yourself to fall in love with him again but you're also making yourself believe subconsciously that there's something left in him for you when the truth is, there's none. False hopes mean nothing but emotional boo-boos.

8. Get busy

Discover things you love to do that you weren't able to explore because he didn't approve of them when you were still together. Schedule night-outs with friends and engage in activities you haven't done before. With so many things to occupy your mind, you'd be so busy to even think about your heartbreak.

9. Move on

An end of a relationship doesn't mean an end of you. You don't need a man to make you feel like a real woman. If he can't see what's beautiful and special about you, what kind of man is he? Not someone worth your time, it's clear. Not someone who deserves you either.

Breakups can be very painful and tormenting. Sometimes, it even makes us feel like dying. Funny how we feel so hedonistically wonderful when we are in love then end up feeling gruesomely dreadful after a breakup. Nevertheless, it's a risk that we all have to take. While there's promise in loving, there are no guarantees. So live and love. Get hurt and love again. After all, there's no joy without pain and no bliss without hell.

© 2005 Rachelle Arlin Credo. All rights reserved.

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I Heard You Want To Forget Your Ex

2007-03-30T12:08:00.000-06:00

It is fact that most people after a bad relationship will try what ever it takes to forget those bad memories. If you are reading this you must be having a hard time to forget those bad memories that hurt you so much.

It is your birthright to live a life full of joy, a life of happiness and confidence. What if you could find a simple way to change all painful memories that make you sick?

Imagine if you could feel happy again as you used to be and feel confident and powerful just like a person who has never been hurt before. In the book forget their ex in just 24hrs. the author has explain how to used a very powerful technique that will instantly change the way you feel about yourself.

There is one fact that all feelings we possesses are not real they are just states of minds. Think about this if you take a glass of water and put in a refrigerator what will happen? The water will freeze, right? Does it mean that water is not there? Nope! Water is still there but its state has change. Our mind works the same.

Our state of mind forms feelings; these feelings could be happiness, sadness or confidence. When you got dumped you created the belief that you are unworthy, unlovable, incompetent or any of the like. These are just the beliefs, which create states of mind. They are neither real nor true. In this new book the Author has explained easy step-by-step, ways that you can use to forget or to make those memories irrelevant. Imagine you see your ex and see him/her as another stranger.

It is very important to forget or neutralized your bad memories because if you don't your self esteem will keep going down and the worse thing is once you self esteem is all the way down, other areas of your life will also be affected. Most people with low esteem cannot even accomplish anything in life because they don't believe they can do it. You don't wanna be in that situation, change your life for your safety.

Sincerely,
Timeo Busyanya

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This article is written by Timeo Busyanya.The author is committed to help individuals, to improve there self image. He provides a FREE e course at: http://lonelyou.com you can also grab the copy of the book at http://www.lonelyou.com/s.html

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